Secrets to a Long and Lasting Relationship

Many lovers want their relationship to last but problems always arise and often lead to a break-up. However, you can prevent this thing from happening. Here are the secrets that will make your romance more stable and last longer.

• Accept each other's weaknesses and differences.

You can never find a perfect lover. Each of us has our own defects and shortcomings. Accept him for what he is, not what you want him to be. But does this mean that you have to ignore your lover's vices? Of course, not. Help him get rid of his vices instead of scolding and nagging him.

Another important matter that you have to consider is your sex differences. Most women experience changes in attitude and behavior before and during menstruation. They become irritable and unpredictable. The changes in behavior are attributed to the hormonal changes occurring in a woman's body during the menstrual process which are normal. Try to understand your girlfriend's attitude during this period and give your support.

• Be honest and faithful.

Unfaithfulness is one of the most common problems of lovers. Most of the time, man is the culprit. Becoming unfaithful poses a big threat to your relationship. It is an act of betrayal and it really hurts to be betrayed.

If you think you cannot resist the temptation, try this: Put yourself on your partner's shoes. How would you feel if your sweetheart fools around with another guy?

• Avoid engaging in pre-marital sex

Pre-marital sex can damage your relationship. You may not notice this at first until your partner cools down and leaves you. Consider these realities:

How many relationships have been broken due to unwanted pregnancies? Most men refused to take the responsibility because they are too young and not yet ready for marriage.

How many men have given up their relationships after getting what they wanted from their girlfriends? This is because most men view their partner as sex object not as a love object. As psychoanalyst Theodor Reik said: "The object of sex may become of no account, boring or even hateful immediately after satisfaction is reached and tension reduced." He further adds: "The sex object can be easily replaced, but not the love object."

• Do not be possessive.

When you become possessive, you're actually preventing your partner from loving you. Because you always think of yourself, you disregard the feeling of your partner. You will create a monster out of your possessiveness fearful enough to scare your sweetheart. The more you'll hold her, the more she would struggle to get out from you.

On the other hand, possessiveness is a sign that you really need your partner so much that you become very demanding and arrogant. You can overcome possessiveness by concentrating only on your partner's needs and affection.

• Talk your problems over.

Many break-ups were caused by little misunderstandings because many lovers do not talk out their probelms and settle them as soon as possible.

Whenever you will have problems and misunderstandings with your partner, try to talk it out even if it is not your fault. Arrange a date, patch-up your differences and learn from your mistakes. If you will often do these approaches, your relationship will become strong. You would be more prepared to face bigger obstacles in the future.

• Entrust your relationship to God.

Compose your own lover's prayer. Pray it together and everyday. This will help strengthen your relationship. You can also join a community prayer group whcih can be of great help to you and your partner.