101 Ways to Score Points with a Woman

Right now, I’m reading a book entitled “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex”. I want to share with you a list of 101 of the little ways a man can keep his partner’s love tank full. This post is timely because February 14 is only a few days away. So guys, why not start doing these little things for her! These will really make a big difference!

• Upon returning home, find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.
  

• Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (e.g., “How did your appointment with the doctor go?”)
  

• Practice listening and asking questions.

• Resist the temptation to solve her problems – emphasize instead.

• Give her twenty minutes of unsolicited, quality attention (don’t read the newspaper or be distracted by anything else during this time).

• Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.
  

• Plan a date several days in advance, rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.

• If she generally makes dinner or if it is her turn and she seems tired or really busy, offer to make dinner.

• Compliment her on how she looks.

• Validate her feelings when she is upset.

• Offer to help her when she is tired.

• Schedule extra time when traveling so that she doesn’t have to rush.

• When you are going to be late, call her and let her know.
  

• When she asks for support, say yes or not without making her wrong for asking.

• Whenever her feelings have been hurt, give her some empathy and tell her “I’m sorry you feel hurt.” Then be silent; let her feel your understanding of her hurt. Don’t offer solutions or explanation why her hurt is not your fault.

• Whenever you need to pull away, let her know you will be back or that you need some time to think about things.
  

• When you’ve cooled off and you come back, talk about what was bothering you in a respectful, nonblaming way, so she doesn’t imagine the worst.

• Offer to build a fire in wintertime.

• When she talks to you, put down the magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full attention.
  

• If she usually washes the dishes, occasionally offer to wash the dishes, especially if she is tired that day.

• Notice when she is upset or tired and ask what she has to do. Then offer to help by doing a few of her “to do” items.

• When going out, ask if there is anything she wants you to pick up at the store, and remember to pick it up.
  

• Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.

• Give her four hugs a day.

• Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her “I Love you.”
  

• Tell her “I Love You” at least a couple of times everyday.
  

• Make the bed and clean up the bedroom.
  

• If she washes your socks, turn your socks right side out so she doesn’t have to do.
  

• Notice when the trash is full and offer to empty it.

• When you are out of town, call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived safely.

• Wash her car.
  

• Wash your car and clean up the interior before a date with her.

• Wash before having sex or put on a cologne if she likes that.

• Take her side when she is upset with someone.

• Offer to give her a back or neck or foot massage (or all three).

• Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual.
  

• Be patient when she is sharing. Don’t look at your watch.

• Don’t flick the remote control to different channels when she is watching with you.

• Display affection in public.
  

• When holding hands, don’t let your hand go limp.
  

• Learn her favorite drinks so you can offer her a choice of the ones that you know she already likes.

• Suggest different restaurants for going out; don’t put the burden of figuring out where to go on her.

• Get season tickets for the theater, symphony, opera, ballet or some other type of performance she likes.

• Create occasions when you both can dress up.
  

• Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit.
  

• Pay more attention to her than to others in public.

• Make her more important than the children. Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost.

• Buy her an outfit (take a picture of your partner along with her sizes to the store and let them help you select it).

• Take pictures of her on special occasions.
  

• Take short romantic getaways.

• Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time.

• When staying in a hotel, have them prepare the room with something special, like a bottle of champagne or sparkling apple juice or flowers.

• Write a note or make a sign on special occasions such as anniversaries and birthdays.

• Offer to drive the car on long trips.

• Drive slowly and safely, respecting her preferences. After all, she is sitting powerless in the front seat.
  

• Notice how she is feeling and comment on it – “You look happy today” “You look tired” – and then ask a question like “How was your day?”
  

• When taking her out, study in advance the directions so that she does not have to feel responsible to navigate.

• Take her dancing or dancing lessons together.
  

• Surprise her with a love note or poem.
  

• Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.

• Offer to fix something around the house. Say “What needs to be fixed around here? I have some extra time.” Don’t take on more than you do.
  

• Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen.
  

• Buy some good Super Glue to fix things that are broken.

• Offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go out.
  

• Help with recycling the trash.

• Read out loud or cut out sections of the newspaper that would interest her.

• Write out neatly any phone messages you may take for her.

• Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry it after taking a shower.
  

• Open the door for her.
  

• Offer to carry the groceries.

• Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.
  

• On trips, handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it in the car.
  

• If she washes the dishes or it is her turn, offer to help scrub pots or other difficult tasks.

• Make a “to fix” list and leave it in the kitchen. When you have extra time do something on that list for her. Don’t let it get too long.

• When she prepares a meal, compliment her cooking.

• When listening to her talk, use eye contact.
  

• Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk to her.

• Show interest in what she does during the day, in the books she reads and the people she relates to.

• When listening to her, reassure her that you are interested by making little noises like ah ha, uh-huh, oh, mmhuh and hmmm.

• Ask her how she is feeling.
  

• If she has been sick in some way, ask for an update and ask how she is doing/feeling.

• If she is tired, offer to make her some tea.

• Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time.

• Give her a kiss and say goodbye when you leave.
  

• Laugh at her jokes and humor.
  

• Verbally say thank you when she does things for you.

• Notice when she gets her hair done and give a reassuring compliment.

• Create special time to be alone together.
  

• Don’t answer the phone at intimate moments or if she sharing vulnerable feelings.
  

• Go bicycling together, even if it’s just a short tide.

• Organize and prepare a picnic. (Remember to bring a picnic cloth).

• If she handles the laundry, bring the clothes to the cleaners or offer to do the wash.
  

• Take her for a walk without the children.
  

• Negotiate in a manner that shows her that you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want. Be caring, but don’t be martyr.
  

• Let her know that you missed her when you went away.
  

• Bring home her favorite pie/dessert.
  

• If she normally shops for the food, offer to do the food shopping.

• Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you don’t become and stuffed and tired later.
  

• Ask her to add her thoughts to this list.

• Leave the bathroom seat down.